annus mirabilis

It was fortunate that my heart broke in the coldest winter. I became an exposed nerve and did not want to face the full force of grief. There was nowhere to go with layers of snow turning the world into a constricted icebox. And I wasn’t brave enough to go nowhere alone yet. So I […]

Bootstraps and Facts

Just to offer an alternative perspective to this endless need to prove that we all accomplished everything on our own despite insurmountable odds: I had help. I had a lot of help at various times from my family, friends, neighbors, teachers, colleagues, managers, and total strangers (especially authors). Once I had help from a random […]

Let me know if you need anything

“Let me know if you need anything.” Most people say it automatically. Some people mean it, with caveats. A few just don’t know what else to say in order to stave off an uncomfortable sense of helplessness. But we aren’t them. When I tell you “anything”, you know. I will remote order you dinner when […]

Pennies

I don’t know why people throw away pennies, But I love finding them with you.   Since I met you, nothing feels insignificant: not pennies, not words, not blinks, not breaths.   During the past few years, my goals have simplified: do my best, be here now, make you smile, enjoy our time.   We […]

Word Value

Value of Words 1. Hate isn’t a strong word. Think about how casually everyone uses it. No words are strong anymore. Phrases might be strong, sometimes. If I say, “I hate you and I hope you die” and you know I’m not being sarcastic, then it might be considered strong phrasing. Give me a word, […]

parts of speech

You say you hate your voice and that makes me sad. I love your voice. Its uniqueness is one of the first things I noticed about you. I said I didn’t want to forget what you sound like but we both hate the phone, so we went on the first date. You know, you actually […]

Unconditional Love is Not Romantic.

I learned something: if you want a lover (and you’re under no obligation there), don’t settle for less than someone who understands and can provide your version of love. Here are some thoughts on mine. Unconditional Love is Not Romantic. Because compulsory devotion is not attractive. Nobody should idealize the notion of automatic dedication. If […]

for better or worse

08.22.2015 – I dreaded facing this date for months. what I used to think was going to happen I do not recognize the girl in that January photograph – physically, emotionally, or otherwise. The end of the relationship was the end of her too.  I don’t mean this as hyperbole.  Nothing causes you to peel off […]